I Think I’m in an Abusive Relationship…What Do I Do Now?

Posted: February 10, 2012 in Uncategorized

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By Hanna Munin

So lately we have been talking a lot about identifying what abuse is and how to tell if you are in an abusive relationships on the blogs. It is one thing to identify that your relationship might be abusive, but it is another to decided what to do next. There are a lot of things you need to consider once you identify the relationship as abusive, but first and foremost is safety.
If the situation you are in is not safe, it is important to leave as soon as possible. Whether that is by calling a friend or family member to stay at their house or if it is calling the police because your partner is a threat. Also, you can call the SafePlace hotline to get help from a person who is trained on how to help you get out of your specific abusive relationship at 512-267-SAFE.
However if you are not in immediate danger in your relationship, or notice some patterns that might be leanign toward abusive, your options are wider. You can talk with your partner about how he or she is acting inappropriately. Somethings that I find helpful to show people are the relationship quizzes on loveisrespect.org where you can show your partner the quiz on healthy relationships, then your partner can see if the way they behave is appropriate or not.
Even if you are not in immediate danger in your relationship, don’t be afraid to get help. It may seem scary or embarrassing to have to talk to someone, but the people on the end of the line are compassionate and want to help you. They won’t judge you and they won’t be telling everyone they know about you. It’s helpful all in all because you get personalized advice about what to do for your specific relationship. There are no proper instructions about how to leave in an abusive relationship, there is room for interpretation and there are things unique to every relationship.

Leaving is the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship, and there is no need to do it alone. Whether you have a person on the hotline talk you through it all, or you talk to a friend or family member you really trust and feel that can help you, talk to someone, and remember that the top priority right now is how to keep you safe.


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